Conflict inevitably comes to all our lives, no matter how good a relationship, organization, or society is. Conflicts and arguments are actually key to thriving relationships. The important point is that we argue and interact in a healthy way.
There is such a thing as a healthy conflict. The Church has known this well over its two-thousand-year history. The Church has also known all too well that there is unhealthy conflict.
What makes a conflict healthy? A common, unchanging purpose. For individuals, that means living out God’s dream for us—to be the-best-version-of-ourselves. The Church has a similar purpose—to live out God’s dream for her and become the-best-version-of-herself.
Saint Meletius, the Bishop of Antioch in the 4th century, found himself in one of the most heated conflicts in Church history: the Arian controversy. Arianism taught that Jesus was not fully divine and therefore not a part of the Trinity. An adamant group of Bishops fought to root out this heresy. Meletius was one of them.
Meletius may not have always been on the receiving end of healthy approaches to conflict, but he himself never wavered in his purpose: to make the-Church-a-better-version-of-herself.
Whenever you find yourself in a difficult situation, follow Meletius' formula for healthy conflict:
Follow this formula when tensions arise and you'll discover that healthy conflict can lead to incredible clarity and flourishing.
